I watched my brother in law die this morning.

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He had been on full life support for a couple weeks so in reality his heart and lungs were not working for all that time. When they pulled the tubes out of him it was like he was instantly embalmed. As if he had been dead for a long time already. It was a jarring experience. I’ve seen guys get shot to death in the street and it wasn’t as disturbing as this was. Maybe because it was a guy I’ve known my whole life, but god damn. It was fucked up.

My wife, his wife and my daughter are all distraught. His brothers and sister and nephews are all friends of mine and family and they’re all pretty tore up.

I didn’t post this for anyone to tell me condolences man, it just really was surreal and if any of you are ever in the position where someone you love has to have the proverbial plug pulled after being on life support for an extended time, I have to say I would avoid actually watching it happen.
 
Yikes brother. I can barely imagine this.

Hope you and the family cope with this OK; you have each other, after all.

Sincere condolences brother. ❤️
 
Floyd Eye said:
Watching all the color drain out of him instantly like that was the most fucked up thing I’ve ever seen in my life.
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I feel you brother.

Sorry to hear of your loss.

I understand what you are going through, as I essentially had my dad die in my arms awhile back. It really messed with me for awhile.

It can really shake you, and takes time to get over.

Hug the ones you love, and honor their memory with your daily actions. This is what I do/did.

I know I'm not a long standing member, and am newer, but if you need someone just to virtually yell at or just talk, hit me up in dm.

I'll keep you and yours in my thoughts, and wish your family all the best in your time of grief.
 
So sorry for your loss, brother. I've seen death more times than I care to think about, on every level. I understand what you're talking about.
 
Floyd Eye said:
He had been on full life support for a couple weeks so in reality his heart and lungs were not working for all that time. When they pulled the tubes out of him it was like he was instantly embalmed. As if he had been dead for a long time already. It was a jarring experience. I’ve seen guys get shot to death in the street and it wasn’t as disturbing as this was. Maybe because it was a guy I’ve known my whole life, but god damn. It was fucked up.
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I wonder if the spirit departs the body prior to those instances since essentially they are just keeping the physical functions going using tech but the person's nous isn't there.
 
VonBonfire said:
I wonder if the spirit departs the body prior to those instances since essentially they are just keeping the physical functions going using tech but the person's nous isn't there.
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Ya know, I’m not a spiritual or religious person but while that was happening right before my eyes I wondered the same thing.

I tend to believe we are all energy and that energy never actually dies it just changes forms. What exactly that entails I don’t know, but……
 
Geo said:
Life ain't easy, my condolences.
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Ain't telling me nothing brother. Don’t misunderstand me, I’m not new to people I love dying or even watching people die. I’ve just never seen a body’s color drain from them instantaneously.

In a little over a month’s time starting April 18 2017 my little brother died, my best friend died on my job along with my laborer, my house flooded and I lost almost everything I owned and ended up living in a friends basement with my wife for 6 months while I rebuilt and my granddaughter was born and died 36 hours later. I’m know life ain’t easy, believe me.
 
Floyd Eye said:
Ya know, I’m not a spiritual or religious person but while that was happening right before my eyes I wondered the same thing.

I tend to believe we are all energy and that energy never actually dies it just changes forms. What exactly that entails I don’t know, but……
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Your spirit will return to the Lord. Calling it energy is just a repackaging IMO.
 
I did not go through this experience - but watched my dad go from a call to the ER to ICU to Hospice to Gone in 7 days Jan 2024. The physical transformation in those 7 days was chilling. You reach a point when you realize how quickly like if passing by and how limited the 'time' we have really is. That realization does support the notion of worrying less, bickering less, and enjoying every day - even the little mundane experiences - as much as possible.

Way, way easier said than done, but I love these 2 phrases:

1) Life is what is happening all around you while you are busy worrying about other shit.

2) Worrying is like paying a debt you don't owe.
 
PDC said:
I did not go through this experience - but watched my dad go from a call to the ER to ICU to Hospice to Gone in 7 days Jan 2024. The physical transformation in those 7 days was chilling. You reach a point when you realize how quickly like if passing by and how limited the 'time' we have really is. That realization does support the notion of worrying less, bickering less, and enjoying every day - even the little mundane experiences - as much as possible.

Way, way easier said than done, but I love these 2 phrases:

1) Life is what is happening all around you while you are busy worrying about other shit.

2) Worrying is like paying a debt you don't owe.
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That's exactly what I went through with my dad in 2015. Same time frame and everything. He was only 73 so your 2 phrases really ring true.
 
Sorry for your loss.
Not easy being present & seeing a loved one pass
Hope your family finds peace
 
I'm sorry for your loss, bro.

Eternal rest grant unto him, O Lord,
and let Your perpetual light shine upon him.
May his soul and the souls of all the faithful departed
rest in peace.
Amen.

Requiem æternam dona eis, Domine
Et lux perpetua luceat eis
Requiescant in pace.
Amen.
 
I know what you're talking about. Watched plug get pulled on friend that was 55 years old.
 
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