Significant other limiting your purchases?

[Spaceboy]

I buy and resale home recording, audio equipment, and random electronics often after owning something for less than a month... usually not even guitar-related. It's like the excitement of learning a new toy matters more to me than whatever it does. Anyways, the girlfriend told me I'm only allowed to buy or resale one item per month now, and that I have to keep it around for at least three month before it can be sold.

Yeah... right! If I decide to play along, she still won't realize how much I spend on software and plugins!

Anybody else have to deal with SOs busy-bodying in your gear mongering? What's your limits?

Haha.

 

[Shark Diver]

Long ago I set up retirement savings plans and household/family/business budgets with the wife. After that it's all discretionary.

 

[blackba]

I buy and resale home recording, audio equipment, and random electronics often after owning something for less than a month... usually not even guitar-related. It's like the excitement of learning a new toy matters more to me than whatever it does. Anyways, the girlfriend told me I'm only allowed to buy or resale one item per month now, and that I have to keep it around for at least three month before it can be sold.

Yeah... right! If I decide to play along, she still won't realize how much I spend on software and plugins!

Anybody else have to deal with SOs busy-bodying in your gear mongering? What's your limits?

Haha.

This decision should be made as a team, not one person making up the rules.

 

[Joeytpg]

imo having a girlfriend/wife "telling" you what you can or can't do with your money is no-no.

if you're a responsible guy and your family ain't lacking anything, and you're buying gear with your "fun money" no one should have a saying on it.

just my opinion.

 

[blackba]

imo having a girlfriend/wife "telling" you what you can or can't do with your money is no-no.

if you're a responsible guy and your family ain't lacking anything, and you're buying gear with your "fun money" no one should have a saying on it.

just my opinion.

+1 you said what I was trying to say, but said it better.

 

['63-Strat]

IMO a g/f doesn't get to make this kinda call. A wife is different.

 

[LP Freak]

IMO a g/f doesn't get to make this kinda call. A wife is different.

Exactly, and that's even a little tough to swallow. I wouldn't be shopping for any rings soon.

 

['63-Strat]

IMO a g/f doesn't get to make this kinda call. A wife is different.

Exactly, and that's even a little tough to swallow. I wouldn't be shopping for any rings soon.

I had an old guitar teacher get reamed in a divorce and had to sell off a lot of gear. I've made it clear to the current g/f that there would be a prenup if it ever happened and all my gear is staying with me period. She laughed and said no problem. She makes a lot more $$$ than I do

 

[Meathead]

IMO a g/f doesn't get to make this kinda call. A wife is different.

Absolutely...if it's your wife it's 'our' money. If it's your girlfriend it's 'your' money.

 

[The Hoff]

I have an agreed upon limit with my gf. We've been together 5 years, we live together, share finances, etc. My "limit" is $4000/year. But if I buy something and sell it, I get that amount back. Similarly if I buy something and sell it at a profit, I get that added to my "limit" as well. Pretty reasonable in my opinion.

 

[Zap]

A girlfriend has no right to tell you how to spend your money UNLESS you live together and you're not paying your share of the bills. If married, the money is shared. In my case, I let my wife handle our finances since she's a wiz with money.

 

[MYLILSS]

my wife has tried that with me several times. both times i shut it down. it even came to a point where i split our household bills 50/50 and told her you pay yours and i will pay mine, and whatever you have left you can spend on whatever and i will do the same. after a few months of her not having her spending cash she likes, she gave in and told me keep buying whatever i want . things changed once she found out i was feeding her shopping addiction as well as mine, and she no longer had as much money as she thought

 

[LP Freak]

Funny how that shit works isn't it?

 

[rlord1974]

Absolutely...if it's your wife it's 'our' money. If it's your girlfriend it's 'your' money.

Absolutely.

I'll go one step further though: if your significant other is telling you its time to relax on the buying and selling, take a good, hard and critical look at your pattern of behaviour. I'd bet in most cases, SHE'S right.

 

[glassjaw7]

Absolutely...if it's your wife it's 'our' money. If it's your girlfriend it's 'your' money.

Absolutely.

I'll go one step further though: if your significant other is telling you its time to relax on the buying and selling, take a good, hard and critical look at your pattern of behaviour. I'd bet in most cases, SHE'S right.

It completely depends on how serious your relationship is, and if you're considering getting married. If you earn your money and pay your own bills/have your own place and just have a casual relationship, or have been dating for awhile but haven't progressed to the "next step", then your gf has NO right to tell you what or how much to buy of anything!

If you live together and pay bills together, then it's business first (bills, family, etc) but of course, that all depends on who is earning. Basically, if all of your financial obligations are taken care of, and you aren't making the other person sacrifice something important (such as saving for a house/retirement, etc) then you're free to make those choices. In a perfect world...

 

[Atropos_Project]

Eh, we keep all our money separate aside from shared funds for neccessities, and it's amazing how well it works. We'll both make suggestions to each other, but there's none of this "no you can't buy that" nonsense.

 

[Shark Diver]

I'd bet in most cases, SHE'S right.

They're always right...

 

[rlord1974]

 

[Skrapmetal]

My wife gets a little upset every now and then, but it's always after the fact. As long as I pay my bills and I don't leave her hanging if she wants something, we're square.

 

[skoora]

Shit, I don't even need my Wife to say anything. My credit card balances do all the nagging I could ever need