I totally agree that the word "bigot" is thrown around far to often. Some people are just of a different generation and aren't used to that sort of thing, you have to take that, and other things, into consideration. For example, when that actor said "Suck my dick faggot" to some paparazzi, probably after being harassed, the hot topic in the media was "is he a homophone?". People his age use those words as colloquialisms. Do they hurt people? Of course, and it's important to be aware of that. But it has nothing to do with how he feels about gays. And yes, some people are obsessed with being gay, it's probably just blow back from being repressed, but it could also be because people demonize them. When insulted, a lot of people double down.