This morning I found a disgusting and weird item in our bathroom cabinet. I asked my wife what the heck it could be and it turned out to be stitches from her mouth. She recently had a wisdom tooth extraction and I recognized the knotted end from seeing it once inside her mouth. I don't know for sure if it was the same knotted part that I saw, but it sure looked like it. Regardless it was definitely a part of her stitches.
Immediately, she got defensive and asked me if I was playing a joke on her. I was quite stunned by her accusation and said that I wasn't. I told her that I didn't even get how that could be a joke, let alone how could I have attained her stitches. It definitely bothered me at first, because she didn't claim responsibility for it. After some back and forth discussion, we let it go in order for us to go out to dinner with her parents.
I brought up the issue again on the drive home. From my point of view, the stitches couldn't have magically just ended up in the cabinet. Even if they dissolved somewhat and she spit them out accidentally, how could they have ended up in the cabinet? This seems impossible. Anyways, I told her my discomfort with her analysis that I could've put them up there to play a joke on her. There would be no reason to do that, and even if I did for joke's sake, I would've claim it was a joke by now since it was causing strife. Plus, I keep bringing it up because the whole thing is making me terribly uncomfortable.
Anyways, how do I move past this? Clearly, they are stitches from the inside of her mouth. We reexamined them hundreds of times. She didn't deny that they were initially, and after inspection it was clear that is what it was. It makes since that they were in the bathroom, considering there is brushing that goes on there, etc. What I don't get is how they ended up in the cabinet. They couldn't have just magically ended up there. I am thinking that my wife was either playing with them and forced the knotted part out (I did tell her last week that the knotted part didn't look "normal" from my experiences with wisdom tooth extraction. It seemed a bit big and intrusive inside her mouth.), or they dissolved and she spit them out. Either way, how did they end up in the cabinet? This whole thing makes me very uncomfortable because I am suspecting that my wife is randomly lying to me, which is never a good thing. People shouldn't lie to each other, and I don't want to accept that in our marriage. I know her mother has been a habitual liar, but that really has nothing to do with my wife, whom I trust very much. Anyways, I suppose knowing that definitely makes me wonder if she (my wife) is capable of such meaningless lies as well. Either way, what do I do? What would you do? I've talked to my wife about it, trying to comfort her that if she did initially lie, I wouldn't be upset, but that it would just need to be something we correct and not allow to happen. She claims that I could've just as easily found her stitches in the sink and put them in the cabinet. I said, if I did that, then why wouldn't I just claim it was a joke by now? Why would I want to start a fight? Why would I hide them in the cabinet? Why would I look for your stitches in the sink? Why wouldn't they have gone down the drain? Etc, etc.
This is totally making me crazy. What do you think? It is difficult to move past this situation because I feel like I am being lied to. The point is not about the stitches -- insert any variable you want to, either way, I feel like I'm being lied to. Anyone have experience with situations like this?
Immediately, she got defensive and asked me if I was playing a joke on her. I was quite stunned by her accusation and said that I wasn't. I told her that I didn't even get how that could be a joke, let alone how could I have attained her stitches. It definitely bothered me at first, because she didn't claim responsibility for it. After some back and forth discussion, we let it go in order for us to go out to dinner with her parents.
I brought up the issue again on the drive home. From my point of view, the stitches couldn't have magically just ended up in the cabinet. Even if they dissolved somewhat and she spit them out accidentally, how could they have ended up in the cabinet? This seems impossible. Anyways, I told her my discomfort with her analysis that I could've put them up there to play a joke on her. There would be no reason to do that, and even if I did for joke's sake, I would've claim it was a joke by now since it was causing strife. Plus, I keep bringing it up because the whole thing is making me terribly uncomfortable.
Anyways, how do I move past this? Clearly, they are stitches from the inside of her mouth. We reexamined them hundreds of times. She didn't deny that they were initially, and after inspection it was clear that is what it was. It makes since that they were in the bathroom, considering there is brushing that goes on there, etc. What I don't get is how they ended up in the cabinet. They couldn't have just magically ended up there. I am thinking that my wife was either playing with them and forced the knotted part out (I did tell her last week that the knotted part didn't look "normal" from my experiences with wisdom tooth extraction. It seemed a bit big and intrusive inside her mouth.), or they dissolved and she spit them out. Either way, how did they end up in the cabinet? This whole thing makes me very uncomfortable because I am suspecting that my wife is randomly lying to me, which is never a good thing. People shouldn't lie to each other, and I don't want to accept that in our marriage. I know her mother has been a habitual liar, but that really has nothing to do with my wife, whom I trust very much. Anyways, I suppose knowing that definitely makes me wonder if she (my wife) is capable of such meaningless lies as well. Either way, what do I do? What would you do? I've talked to my wife about it, trying to comfort her that if she did initially lie, I wouldn't be upset, but that it would just need to be something we correct and not allow to happen. She claims that I could've just as easily found her stitches in the sink and put them in the cabinet. I said, if I did that, then why wouldn't I just claim it was a joke by now? Why would I want to start a fight? Why would I hide them in the cabinet? Why would I look for your stitches in the sink? Why wouldn't they have gone down the drain? Etc, etc.
This is totally making me crazy. What do you think? It is difficult to move past this situation because I feel like I am being lied to. The point is not about the stitches -- insert any variable you want to, either way, I feel like I'm being lied to. Anyone have experience with situations like this?