Yeah you gotta do something about that and get back out there. That's tough, I know how it goes. And you got a young family on top of it.
Maybe you can get a couple nights a week where someone else covers the evenings. I ain't making a lot of side hustle money because it's hard to find regular part time work here.so I wind up doing odds and ends on the side so I can hit the guitar, write songs, rehearse, record, and gig more. You get work here and your boss thinks he owns your ass MUST WORK WEEKENDS AND HOLIDAYS is all over the job market. I'd rather eat dirt and bugs than give up that playing time. So it's a no-go right there for me. My kids are a little older but I was nuts and just didn't give a shit about anything for a long time. Probably not for the better, but that's what it was.
The Berkshires in the summer sounds pretty killer. I just can't pack a switchblade in the club there I suppose, lol. You need to get out there before life passes you by and you become some Arch Stanton spamming forums with the same clips. Sharpen your chops and pick those strings for extra bread on the weekends.