You could be totally right, or way off base, depending on your details. If you are right, then I would agree with you. If you are wrong, then you've wasted our time. So I will leave your rumination where you placed it.
All these various forums, and having an online presence in general, is pretty much a waste of time anyway.
It's true. This is the only real social media I have other than music related stuff that someone else runs. Even so I try to avoid fruitless time-suck discussions that I don't have a ton of interest in. No offense intended.
You forgot to mention if the child enrolls in college then child support remains in force and the father will be responsible for at least 1/3 of the college expenses.
She would take you to divorce court and if you have been married ten years or more she will start with taking half your 401K, Pension, savings, maybe get the house and the cars and if they are not paid for yet you might still have the pay the mortgage and car payments if she does not want to work or cannot show the court she can support herself and you must provide the life she has become accustomed to.I've often wondered if we did split, WTH would she do? ?
She would take you to divorce court and if you have been married ten years or more she will start with taking half your 401K, Pension, savings, maybe get the house and the cars and if they are not paid for yet you might still have the pay the mortgage and car payments if she does not want to work or cannot show the court she can support herself and you must provide the life she has become accustomed to.
Depending on the state if you have been married less than ten years, works and can support herself with no children then she is entitled to half the equity in the marital house, joint savings, maybe your 401K/Pension and if your soon to be ex-wife is nice she won't run up the credit cards and withdraw all your money from your bank accounts while you are at work.
I had an amicable divorce with my ex-wife and the judge stopped the divorce proceeding and asked her if the divorce agreement was acceptable to her even though I gave her everything she was entitled to BY LAW, it could have changed if she had answered the judge no.
The judge did not care that my wife's bad behavior and infidelity was the reason for the divorce that we both agreed upon since she wanted out and I no longer wanted to be married to her..... in divorce court she was the victim and I was the bad guy and the judge would rule accordingly. Fortunately she answered yes and we both went on our merry way......
One year later I received the phone call with tears and all saying what a mistake she had made and how sorry she was........I accepted her apology and told her you made your own bed time to lie in it............................And I never received another phone call
You never truly know your wife until you begin divorce proceedings.............Don't believe me? Get divorced.....
Which is fucking ridiculous because that's breach of contract IMHO.
That's when the phrase "CHEAPER TO KEEP HER" gets thrown around by men on the second or third marriage and don't want to have to go through the fight again at 50-65 years of age...although it happens at all age groups these days. I'm sure you see it all around you.I've been divorced, I'm on my second wife
Yeah my first wife was a cheater, the courts don't care, or want to even hear about it ?
But anyway, back to what I was talking about I wonder what she would do? What I'm saying is after she get's her half. What would she do for work? She would be way behind in work history, basically starting back at a lower level. Would be hard.
That's when the phrase "CHEAPER TO KEEP HER" gets thrown around by men on the second or third marriage and don't want to have to go through the fight again at 50-65 years of age...although it happens at all age groups these days. I'm sure you see it all around you.
Here's the latest 2023 Divorces stats.........and the only reason divorces rates have declined is marriage rates are at the lowest levels since they started keeping those statistics..........
In 2023, the United States continues to see complex trends in divorce rates, with an overall decline. First marriages still end in divorce at a rate of approximately 35-50%, while second marriages face an even higher likelihood of dissolution, ranging from 60-70% or more.
When I was in marriage counseling in 2008 the counselor said it was 50% for first time marriages and 60-75% for second time marriages and 80%+ for third time marriages. If you are gambling man these are your odds.................
Shit you not.
I really appreciate the time you took to explain your methods. And the links to check out!
You're welcome, maybe others will post other ideas.
My brother in law lives there and they have 2 boys in a tiny little condo with no back yard up in Del Mar and I bet it has cost him $2M+ over time.
well, if you're not in the top 1% who can avoid taxes or homeless, and live in California (NY, IL, MA, ...) what do you expect?
