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DanishDon
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100k is not far fetched for the average Californian family though. It might even be on the low side, no?
311boogieman
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It is true the wages are higher - just not sure if it offsets.
CrazyNutz
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I used to do remote programming work for companies in Silicon Valley. Made a killing because of the living expense difference here in TX.
ccn
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You will own NOTHING and be happy .
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Ben Waylin
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rsm
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harddriver
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Once you hear the words "I'm NOT happy" ( I'm sure many of you have heard this or are hearing it) you best be on the the lookout for changes in behavior.....because nine times out of ten she will be blaming you for her unhappiness and will be out there trying to make herself happy no matter how much you try to appease her.My first marriage our anniversary date was 9-11Shit you not.
We were already falling apart, and that morning of 9-11 we watched the planes hit the towers, we looked at each other and we knew we were cursed ?
My counselor was a fair guy that pulled me aside one night to explain in his 16 years of counseling married couples( he himself was on wife number 3) that once a woman blames and resents you for all her unhappiness there is no amount of capitulation on the husbands part that will stop the marriage from disintegrating. Only after the woman ends the marriage for her new "soulmate" and finds out her previous marriage was not the reason for her unhappiness does she try to apologize and maybe do some self reflection. At that point most will double and triple down on their bad decisions out of fear of admitting any self responsibility for the actions in her life.
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VonBonfire
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Lol, 3'rd marriage and he's giving counsel? I told my wife early on, point blank, I will never go to a marriage counselor. They are like drug counselors. They usually have or have had bigger problems than the people they are counseling. I'd rather talk to a priest.
Stripped Rights
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Reminds me of one of my dads buddies giving me relationship advice when I was young. Guy was on his fifth wife.
Ben Waylin
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There's no substitute for experience.Reminds me of one of my dads buddies giving me relationship advice when I was young. Guy was on his fifth wife.
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harddriver
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We made no progress whats-over in the two months of counseling my wife just used the bully pulpit to bitch about everything and justify her own actions never making any serious attempt at atonement and possibly saving the marriage.
Once I realized it was going nowhere I thanked the counselor for being fair and judicious and cancelled any further sessions. I then notified my wife that the divorce was going to proceed and that was final. My counselor told me that my wife thought she had full control over the situation and would freak out when I told here the counseling was over and the divorce will proceed into finality.
He may have been on his 3rd marriage but he was 100% correct on all his advice and prognostications. My wife did indeed freak out and go into multiple tirades even though I had given her what she said she wanted incessantly during the whole time of counseling.............
rsm
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The good news about my divorce is that I was able to get my finances back on track in a few years, and once my payments to my ex-wife are done, I will be able to live at a much lower income and corresponding income tax bracket. If I was still married in retirement, I'd need close to double my planned retirement income after my payments to her are done...until RMDs kick in, which is when I'll put any extra into my Roth IRA.
While married, my ex wife spent the majority of my (essentially our) money, now I spend it getting my house ready, toys for retirement.
While married, my ex wife spent the majority of my (essentially our) money, now I spend it getting my house ready, toys for retirement.
rsm
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