Worst Parent Award (Video)

[Audioholic]

While I think the Mom did a terrible job of communicating and relating, clearly she is older and doesn't understand or aware of how things are now adays. She def went over the line in this video and was being a terrible parent. However, she may have some valid points and concerns. My parents ragged on me for music as I grew up all the time as well. Said it would get me nowhere and that I would probably never do anything with it. Well they were wrong mostly, but were coming from a good place. And they have made a better living then I and they have not liked to see their child struggle financially and successfuly etc. As a parent, it would be hard to see your kid shut himself in a dark room all the time, talking on the internet and not being social etc. There def is something not completely healthy about that too, and especially if there is no drive to work and function. I have no idea if this is the case, but I do know that I have known plenty of kids and they really don't show much promise of hard work or being able to eventually make a decent living due to lack of motivation. they themselves would shut themselves in their room, watch Anime porn all day, let their personal hygeine go to crap, haha. So there IS something to be said about getting pissed and finally breaking down and drilling your kid.

I don't think we can say whether or not his guitars are really locked up or whatever, he is a teenager, they love drama and manufacturing drama. if that is true, well that sucks, but who knows it could also be just what this kid needs. Really hard to say. Now if this kid had a job, worked hard, got good grades, then Def not appropriate.

When my daughter grows up, I hope to be understanding and a great friend, however, as we get older, we understand just how the real world really does work. Some of that stuff my parents said was true, even though it didn't seem like it was or that they were getting down on us. Sometimes we have to be the parent..

 

[alan67]

That was my Mother right there,
same Shit. She continued her ways
like that, well after I had moved out.
I haven't spoke to her since 1999, that's
what happens when a Parent is berates
their child constantly....they end up with
no relationship with their child in the latter
years of life when they need their children
the most.

My Son is 20 and I encouraged him to Rip
as much as he wanted to as a kid! I hooked him
up with some of the best gear at the time,
Les Pauls, GK, Marshall, Mesa, etc...
He has since given up Jammin' for Hot Chicks
at Arizona State U where he is currently a Sophomore.

So in closing, I say this to that TWAT in the Video:
"EMBRACE YOUR CHILD'S PASSIONS AND
NUTURE THEM"!!!

Ok, good deal, obviously your son did enough in high school to even make it into ASU. Let's say ALL he did was play guitar so his grade point average was shit and he got outscored on his SAT's by a brown paper bag, well.....it could be a tough road at that point. My dad was supportive of my playing but he also wanted me to have choices. He was like, ok, you wanna be a rock star? Go for it balls out, but you might want to have some kind of safety net other than thinking that I'm gonna support you financially well into adulthood, cause that ain't gonna happen: and rightly so

 

[TeleBlaster]

Look, if you've ever parented teenagers.... what I'm trying to say and obviously failing at so far, is that this is a 40 second slice of his life. Yeah, the Mom appears to be a complete jerk. But I bet he is not lacking for food, clothing, forced to do labor, restrained, sexually abused, physically harmed or imprisoned. Another person replied that his parents helped pay for his gear.
I also noted that Mom did not go off on him in profanity, this berating though very negative, was far from abusive. What we don't see is a complete picture of his life and interaction with his family. Though it's very bad to call your kids "worthless to society", geeeez how can you miss the context here? Mom obviously desires him to be successful in life, she's not writing him off but is very frustrated at what she sees and says some words that she would probably regret if she heard them played back to her.
If this were my kid and I came home from work and saw this video, we would have a discussion about expectations that would go something like this:

"Your mother and I love you very much. We want to see you be successful in life, by that we mean much more than material gains. We want you to be happy and fulfilled. Having been on this planet 30 years longer than you, we have some valuable insight to help guide you. Your interest in music is awesome! This develops parts of your brain in ways that can give you an advantage in certain academic pursuits. Right now in your life, you have more "free time" than you ever will in the future. We feel it is unhealthy and unproductive for you to spend 18 hours a day locked in your room playing your guitar and browsing internet forums. I encourage you to continue your musical interests. Have you ever thought about joining a band? Getting out of the house to jam with other musicians? Have you thought about an alternate career to support yourself as you pursue a musical career? Might be very difficult with just a High School diploma. Did you know that if you had some type of professional career, this would leave you more time for your performing interests at night? Starting a technical or professional job at 9:00am and working in a clean air conditioned environment leaves you more time and less spent, than having to be on the jobsite at 5:00am and dig holes in 100 degree weather all day. And that's what life's about son. It's not about money, it's about time. We all have a certain span of time in which to live our lives, and our greatest wish for you is to spend that time in the greatest possible manner, with your own family that you will have in future, or helping others. It would be tragic for us to see you imprisoned to a time clock, or worse, forcibly surrendering your dreams because you did not prepare for your own future. The best thing you could do starting right now is to learn to discipline your time. Set aside time for studying for your SAT's. Get involved in a team sport and a club or organization that does charitable service, you will need this for your college applications. Work a part time job a few hours a week. Keep a good GPA. AND YES, have fun, follow your dream, join a band, do something with your musical skills. Your future starts now, your life is the sum total of the decisions you make. We're here to support and help you. AND REMEMBER... Rule #1- Don't Make Your Mom Crazy!!!"


Look, Jimmy, I've seen kids who are truly abused, this ain't it....

 

[dfrattaroli]

Where's he getting all his gear? He has very good gear. I'm guessing mom's paying for it. Just seems odd that she'd buy all the gear and bash the kid. If she can "take it away" from him, then I take it to mean she paid. It's just a bit odd.

And honestly, it doesn't seem all that bad. She's clueless for sure but she makes some valid points about how kids waste their time. In this case, I think she's missing the point about how creative music is. She seems to equate it with playing video games which is fucking stupid.

 

[LP Freak]

Where's he getting all his gear? He has very good gear. I'm guessing mom's paying for it. Just seems odd that she'd buy all the gear and bash the kid. If she can "take it away" from him, then I take it to mean she paid. It's just a bit odd.

And honestly, it doesn't seem all that bad. She's clueless for sure but she makes some valid points about how kids waste their time. In this case, I think she's missing the point about how creative music is. She seems to equate it with playing video games which is fucking stupid.

Reguardless the situation, the kid needs his ass beat for posting something like this about his mother for the world to see.

 

[TeleBlaster]

Good point, LP....

I had another thought, if you really feel this was bad, remember he's 17 almost 18, of military service age. He could be screamed at with much profanity how worthless he is, and be physically attacked and challenged all day, every day, but it's not called abuse. It's called "boot camp".

 

[LP Freak]

Good point, LP....

I had another thought, if you really feel this was bad, remember he's 17 almost 18, of military service age. He could be screamed at with much profanity how worthless he is, and be physically attacked and challenged all day, every day, but it's not called abuse. It's called "boot camp".

I don't agree with dicouraging your kids in any way but this country has become obsessed with being politically correct and pitty me. Kids have found a way to use this stategy against their own parents. What a shame.

 

[TeleBlaster]

Ya really. Where are the men of the next generation going to come from?

 

[Zap]

Look, if you've ever parented teenagers.... what I'm trying to say and obviously failing at so far, is that this is a 40 second slice of his life. Yeah, the Mom appears to be a complete jerk. But I bet he is not lacking for food, clothing, forced to do labor, restrained, sexually abused, physically harmed or imprisoned. Another person replied that his parents helped pay for his gear.
I also noted that Mom did not go off on him in profanity, this berating though very negative, was far from abusive. What we don't see is a complete picture of his life and interaction with his family. Though it's very bad to call your kids "worthless to society", geeeez how can you miss the context here? Mom obviously desires him to be successful in life, she's not writing him off but is very frustrated at what she sees and says some words that she would probably regret if she heard them played back to her.
If this were my kid and I came home from work and saw this video, we would have a discussion about expectations that would go something like this:

"Your mother and I love you very much. We want to see you be successful in life, by that we mean much more than material gains. We want you to be happy and fulfilled. Having been on this planet 30 years longer than you, we have some valuable insight to help guide you. Your interest in music is awesome! This develops parts of your brain in ways that can give you an advantage in certain academic pursuits. Right now in your life, you have more "free time" than you ever will in the future. We feel it is unhealthy and unproductive for you to spend 18 hours a day locked in your room playing your guitar and browsing internet forums. I encourage you to continue your musical interests. Have you ever thought about joining a band? Getting out of the house to jam with other musicians? Have you thought about an alternate career to support yourself as you pursue a musical career? Might be very difficult with just a High School diploma. Did you know that if you had some type of professional career, this would leave you more time for your performing interests at night? Starting a technical or professional job at 9:00am and working in a clean air conditioned environment leaves you more time and less spent, than having to be on the jobsite at 5:00am and dig holes in 100 degree weather all day. And that's what life's about son. It's not about money, it's about time. We all have a certain span of time in which to live our lives, and our greatest wish for you is to spend that time in the greatest possible manner, with your own family that you will have in future, or helping others. It would be tragic for us to see you imprisoned to a time clock, or worse, forcibly surrendering your dreams because you did not prepare for your own future. The best thing you could do starting right now is to learn to discipline your time. Set aside time for studying for your SAT's. Get involved in a team sport and a club or organization that does charitable service, you will need this for your college applications. Work a part time job a few hours a week. Keep a good GPA. AND YES, have fun, follow your dream, join a band, do something with your musical skills. Your future starts now, your life is the sum total of the decisions you make. We're here to support and help you. AND REMEMBER... Rule #1- Don't Make Your Mom Crazy!!!"


Look, Jimmy, I've seen kids who are truly abused, this ain't it....

Okay, back from shopping with the wife. I'm not going to argue with any of these points because I agree with all of them on some level. I'm simply taking this for face value. Maybe this is the first time the mother unloaded on her son. If this is a one time thing, then the kid's an evil dirtbag for posting it online for the world to see and judge. However, maybe the kid's typical, only has a healthy interest in music, and the mother behaves in this manner every time he picks up the guitar.

We don't know. The bottom line is that everything's speculation, and all we really have to go on is the source material. If the kid's typical, and he's listening to his mother tell him he's worthless everyday of his life, that's child abuse.

I may be wrong, but I don't think a kid would post a youtube video of one fight with his mother just to get back at her. I really do believe this had to be years in the making.

Edit: Then again, lets be honest, kid's are stupid.

Just my perception.

 

[TeleBlaster]

No argument from me!

I had the rather unfortunate experience of having to go through the "child abuse" legal grind, and got a first hand education on how Child Protective Services work. Without going into the gory details too much, my teenage daughters were being punished for something really bad they conspired to do, and one of them "ran away" to her friend's house on the next block. Whack-o ultra lib single Mom of her friend calls the cops..... (This Mom let her 14yr old daughter have sleep-overs with boyfriends and let her smoke in the house) ... So we were thrust into the system.
Well my daughters got several lectures from the police, the CPS workers, etc. about what a waste of time and resources their case is, what real abuse constitutes, physical, mental and verbal, how spoiled they are, and the responding officer even told them "If you were my kids I'd beat your @ss and arrest you for what you did.... now your parents are going to have to go through heck because I got called out here on a report of abuse, that's just how the system works..."
So anyways we all lived through it, I did get to talk with the CPS agent in depth about child abuse, and my kids don't hate me and are doing fine. The one that ran away is now in college on scholarship. Her friend with the permissive Mom still lives at home, pregnant with her second out of wedlock child. In the long run I wonder who the "abusive" parent really was.

Peace.

 

[Greg Riley]

That was sarcastically speaking.. But no, I don't advocate any teenager to kill a parent. My thoughts are to the worse things the kid could be out doing instead of playing music. I think the mother needs some more rational sense to her interaction with her teenager.

..... Talk about a bitch that needs a curb stomp! ...

Wow, really??? You advocate manslaughter as a reasonable response in this situation?

 

[Greg Riley]

The premissive Mom is another case of bad parenting. I agree, lack of guidance and parenting skills can be abuse to a degree. "The apple doesn't fall far from the tree" Thats what I would fear most about the future of her daughter. There are alot of single parents out there working and trying to raise kids. Alot of proper guidance can be missed for those dealt that hand for whatever reason. Some even work multiple jobs. I would question any defense of this mother trying to do the right thing from what you've stated. Every circumstance is different for the most part. There was no time out when I was growing up. Either you got it, got something taken, or you got the sense knocked into you. But I never got in trouble for playing guitar.

No argument from me!

I had the rather unfortunate experience of having to go through the "child abuse" legal grind, and got a first hand education on how Child Protective Services work. Without going into the gory details too much, my teenage daughters were being punished for something really bad they conspired to do, and one of them "ran away" to her friend's house on the next block. Whack-o ultra lib single Mom of her friend calls the cops..... (This Mom let her 14yr old daughter have sleep-overs with boyfriends and let her smoke in the house) ... So we were thrust into the system.
Well my daughters got several lectures from the police, the CPS workers, etc. about what a waste of time and resources their case is, what real abuse constitutes, physical, mental and verbal, how spoiled they are, and the responding officer even told them "If you were my kids I'd beat your @ss and arrest you for what you did.... now your parents are going to have to go through heck because I got called out here on a report of abuse, that's just how the system works..."
So anyways we all lived through it, I did get to talk with the CPS agent in depth about child abuse, and my kids don't hate me and are doing fine. The one that ran away is now in college on scholarship. Her friend with the permissive Mom still lives at home, pregnant with her second out of wedlock child. In the long run I wonder who the "abusive" parent really was.

Peace.

 

[TeleBlaster]

Oh, I wasn't judging her singleness. I've got a few single Moms that work for me and I know for whatever reason that they became a single parent, it's a tough row to hoe. I do question approving of your 14 year old girl's sexual relations with her boyfriends, that definitely sends up a red flag, and allowing her to use tobacco and alcohol is just plain crazy and probably illegal.

As the situation was erupting, I was trying to get home and was catching pieces of it from the 872 phone calls I got from my wife. My wife had spanked my daughter. On the butt, over clothes. This is NOT CHILD ABUSE in Arizona. So anyway this woman freaked out and called 911, "She hit her daughter..." thus beginning the ordeal...

 

[6CA7]

Not sure if this is real but it's not too far fetched for some.

Hey, if sitting there in his room making a video of guitar stuff bad to her....imagine the things the kid could be doing that are worse

Imagine if she found drugs in his room of heaven forbid a girl?

 

[Zap]

Oh, I wasn't judging her singleness. I've got a few single Moms that work for me and I know for whatever reason that they became a single parent, it's a tough row to hoe. I do question approving of your 14 year old girl's sexual relations with her boyfriends, that definitely sends up a red flag, and allowing her to use tobacco and alcohol is just plain crazy and probably illegal.

As the situation was erupting, I was trying to get home and was catching pieces of it from the 872 phone calls I got from my wife. My wife had spanked my daughter. On the butt, over clothes. This is NOT CHILD ABUSE in Arizona. So anyway this woman freaked out and called 911, "She hit her daughter..." thus beginning the ordeal...

That's really messed up. There's no doubt that some kids need tough love like spankings.

 

[xntrick]

"playing with their game things"

That cracked me up. She sounds harsh but i don't know the other side of the story. The kid may just be doing that all day long and nothing else which would explain her behavior. I also noticed she never knocked on the door which i think is a bad trait to pass along to your kids.

 

[Mr. Burton]

 

[guitarnie]

Posted on the other thread regarding this video. Some funny comments had to share here also.
Only a portion of all of the comments off of youtube.
Geez.....
She didn't even knock

That's a nice setup.

Does your mom drink?

You know you'd think after 450,000 views he would fix the title, but nope.

My mom gave me one of these speeches.
When she finished I told her I was going out, hotwired her car, and drove off.
Hasn't said a word to me since.

where do u live, ill stab her for you, no jokes

*the voice inside your head*
Kill her Mike... Kill her now... o____o
Kill her!

hell my mother would love that i learn how to play the guitar but i SUCK!!!

Solution : Engl -Volume :10 ..proximity to parents ears 5ft approx.
Duration :2hours

Blowing your brains out probably contributes more to the planet and to society because you are less of a drain.

fuck you bitch, FUCK YOU BITCH

what a bitch dude...kill her in her sleep

I would have strummed a nice, big, open G while she was blabbing.

Someone needs to make a Metal Song with this sampled into it.

You should get a medal for living with her!

tell your mother i said shut the fuck up

There's a special place in hell for people like her.

WHAT DO YOU WANT TO DO WITH YOUR LIFE!!!!!! I WANNA ROCK!!!!

Did you steal my mother?

He should have cranked the amp to 11 and fucking melt her face.

She needs some dick, cause she just came in and started bitchin lol YO 911 NEED DICK ASAP OVER HERE

oh my goodness i want to punch her in the dick

go get addicted to meth, teach that bitch a lesson. show her how harmless playing guitar is compared to somethings other teenagers out there are doing.

Sorry pal, but your mother is an absolute cunt.

Wudda cunt

Should've just started playing while she talked. Free Bird her ass out of the room.

I can't believe you haven't fucking punched her.

I would have fucking backhanded your mom and told her to shut the fuck up

God, your mom is a complete piece of shit.

What has the mother done to change the world? Fuckin bitch.

You're mum is a cunt fair play. Not much of a mother really is she?

Fuckin slap the shit out of her.

Wow, what a joyless cunt.

This is why kids kill their parents.

oh, and p.s. kiddo, you're almost 18--get the hell out and then you can sit around all day playing guitar! that's the beauty of being an adult, but until then, suck it up!

Kill her now!!!!

I WISH i could slap her. with a guitar.

dude move the fuckkkk out

Should have turned around and back handed that bitch and started playing while she's laying on the ground crying.

I don't mean to call your mom a bitch....but...I am...What a bitch.

I am going to write a piece of music about this. I'll be contacting you in several months.

Id very much like to punch your mother in the throat.

Your mother is a fucking cunt..... but you already knew that

you're famous now.

Thumbs up if you got here because They Might Be Giants posted it on their Facebook.


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[LP Freak]

Those are all comments from our future generation that just don't get it.

 

[Zap]

Youtube - The place to be if you want to voice your stupidity. I wouldn't worry too much though. Stupid people have always walked the Earth. The internet just provides them a place to congregate and showcase their ignorance.