I'm not going to throw the guy under the bus, it's not my style, and wouldn't help anything, not to mention, I'm not pissed. but at the moment, I do have a really bad taste in my mouth about it, and what last week was a lot of excitement has turned into frustration at not being able to get advice on fundamental aspects of the build. The quotes in my post above are not verbatim, I removed names and particulars, but the sentiment is pretty much intact. Don't get me wrong, the guy hasn't been rude. He has actually been pretty polite, but he has been extremely unhelpful, starting the day I put down the deposit and also sent the clip. Prior to the clip and deposit, he was emailing me several times per day, telling me how excited the builder was to build the guitar, how he remembered building the guitar my buddy owned and what a great guitar it was, how beautiful the guitar would be with XXX finish, etc. Every question I asked got a "let me ask the builder." followed by, "the builder really thinks that..." Now, no mention of the builder at all, even when I ask.
At this point, I have clearly asked several times about what pickups to use, and have not gotten any answers. Before the deposit/clip, he gave me a list of pickup makers they use, and told me all about their strong and weak points, what kind of tones they were good for, etc. Afterwards, as I mentioned above, all he would say is, "Well, we have X Brand pickups used coming out of our buddy XXX's guitar, it'll be easiest if you just use those. If you don't like them, it'll be easy to sell them afterwards." No real mention or explanation about how they would help me achieve my tone. When I pressed him on it, saying, well, I looked up those pickups, they have a pretty mild output rating, why did you suggest them, I didn't get any real answer. Then when I made some suggestions of my own, like what about BKP pickups, or what about Lace pickups, or what about a custom wind from XX Brand that you use frequently?" He ignored all of my suggestions, did not talk about the BKP's or whatever at all, and repeated that I should use his buddy's pickups. When I asked him how they would help my tone, he told me, "I'm an old fart - and very old school (Jazz/Blues/Steely/) so I'm the last guy you want to listen to about tone," (verbatim quote). He also mentioned that "there's no guitar left in the signal" in the clip I sent. The part that really got to me was that I specifically asked him, if you don't know much about tone, what does the builder think I should use? This question was ignored, with yet another suggestion that I use their buddy's pickups. At this point, he's told me to just get back to him when I figure out what pickups I want.
I'm trying to take a few days to chill on it, but I'm pretty much in the same place as all the above comments.